Spanking Explained: Giving and Receiving
Spanking is listed as giving or receiving, depending on who is on the receiving end. Here is how each one works.
The two versions
On a profile, spanking giving means she spanks you; spanking receiving means you spank her. Plenty of ladies list both, but not all, so check which one you are after. Each is a separate decision on her part.
If she is spanking you
Tell her how firm you would like it and whether you prefer the hand or a paddle. Over the knee is the classic, and it works well as part of a domination or role play session. Agree a word that means stop before you start.
If you are spanking her
Everything is agreed beforehand: how hard, how long, hand only or not, and where. Do not leave marks unless she has said clearly that it is fine. Start gently and let her tell you when to go further, because what she enjoys is what makes it fun for you.